Put your weapon down.

 There are only a few things that will make me happy before 8 in the morning.

One of them is coffee. Or tea. Anything with caffeine. Usually it's coffee but still...

The other is mellow music (again, usually). This morning, I had both of them combined. Yay!

I'm listening to Justin Nozuka,and the song I'm currently listening to is called "woman put your weapon down."  Here's a link to the song, check it out! 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYfmVrjeieY 
Or at least check out the lyrics here...

http://www.lyricsmania.com/woman_put_your_weapon_down_lyrics_justin_nozuka.html


Seriously, it is one of my absolute favorite songs at the moment. For whatever reason, it speaks the truth to me on so many levels. 

And honestly, it applies as much to girls as it does to guys. Just in different ways.

To me, a woman's 'weapon' is that all guys are jerks, all guys out there to break your heart and just want to sleep with you and once they've done that, they're going bye bye. They're scared of commitment. It's such a common occurrence to see girls get there hopes up over this one particular guy, and then when he freaks out and buggers off, our weapon comes up because we're instantly shattered. So the next guy that comes around that might actually be good to us,  has to deal with us with our weapon up. Awesome right? Not so much... 


I'm not a guy, so I can't speak 100% truth about this, but maybe if there are guys that are reading, they can help me out in the comment box below.
MY experience with a guy's 'weapon' is that they have this general opinion that all girls want is for guys to buy them stuff and take them out and party every weekend. Every time I meet a new guy, it's 'my ex told me things were good when I was buying her stuff' or 'all girls want to do is party' or 'she complained that I never took her out'. So. Not. True. Maybe that's the appearance a lot of girls give, but it's so not the case for me. And now girls that are similar to me, have to deal with the weapon's that they put up. Again, not so awesome.


Yes, I screwed up in my first relationship by giving this impression, but you would have to fully understand what went on to understand why I might've wanted him to take me out more often than he did. 


Here's the deal. Girls want to feel special. We want you to make us feel like we're the only girl that matters to you. SO cliche it hurts but it's the truth.


Want to make me feel special? I'm not going to give away all my secrets but I'm telling you right now that I'm not expecting a fancy dinner every time we go out (maybe even not at all, depending on the seriousness of the relationship) but I do expect you to want to hang out with me, and at least make the effort to take that first step. I can't stand it when I have to do all the work. I have to say, as soon as I start feeling like I'm making the effort all the time and I'm getting absolutely nothing from the other person (not talking like dinner, I'm talking about lack of connection), my weapon goes up because I get hurt and frustrated.


But really, we should be putting our weapons down. Guys, not all girls are sluts, not all girls want to party, and not all girls want fancy things.Girls, not all guys are out there to sleep with you and then leave you. Not all guys are out there to break your heart. I don't know if there are any guys out there that will deliberately do things to hurt a girl's feelings. 

Honestly, if we all put our weapons down more often, you'd be surprised who you'd meet, and the friendships you could develop.You may even find someone you can see yourself spending some serious time with. This year alone I've met people who I've truly come to like because I've put my weapon down. I've also put my weapon up to somebody I thought I knew and put a lot of time and effort towards because they hurt me. I'm not promising that every time you 'put your weapon down' that you'll find your best friend, but if you put your mind in the right place, you may get an enjoyable experience out of it. 


So try it! I'm going to continue on this throughout the year, and it may even be something that lasts a lifetime!