I feel like somebody unzipped my body, ripped my heart out (catch the reference?) stomped on it (this is where the reference stops and my originality comes into play) gave it back to me, then said "here, deal with what you've done". When really, what did I do besides give you my heart? YOU'RE the one that stomped on it. YOU pick up the broken pieces. YOU massage it better. (Like THAT'S ever going to happen).
There are some things that will put my light out, and as a Christian, I'm supposed to let my light shine for others. Which most of the time, I understand and feel I can accomplish. There are days however, when I'm faced with certain situations where this stumps me.
It comes back to dealing with people. Doesn't it always?
I've come to the conclusion that I'm too nice. I'm kidding. But seriously.Time and time again I'm giving people the benefit of the doubt, and it feels like every time that happens. I get burned. So that little light that's shining 'before men' is getting a little too 'hot' and burning me. Not a fun feeling.
What's interesting about some people is their lack of listening skills, combined with their ignorance. In the past 4 days, I've had 2 conversations with two separate people, where I've told them things about themselves that they should work on, and they TOTALLY missed the cue.
It's so difficult to be friends with someone who doesn't get a hint. Even the most obvious ones like when you're trying to have a private conversation with someone and the other person won't go away, or when you're trying to work on something and a friend doesn't get the hint that you might be too busy to talk to them.
Those are really minor problems. There are more serious issues that people need to understand about themselves, and where, as a friend, we can give 'subtle hints about' such as when people undermine others. Yes. This came up in one of the conversations I had. The person I told this to, did the standard 'yeah I know', but didn't really get the point. This person felt only their experiences were the truly difficult ones, and no one else in the world was going to suffer quite like they were. Which, in some ways is true, but it doesn't give anyone the right to undermine people.
I don't care who you are, or what you're doing with your life, other people have experiences and hardships too. They may not be ANYTHING like yours, and you may think that what they're experiencing is minor, but sometimes people want to talk about things, so you need to shut your mouth, keep your opinions to yourself, and listen. Because you will get nowhere in life being THAT self absorbed.
There are people out there who just don't get it. They have no idea how to listen, and they have no idea that what you're telling them might actually be applicable to their life. Nobody likes to hear that they aren't perfect. Nobody likes to hear that there are things they do that annoy others. But that's just too bad. Wake up genius, you're not perfect, and neither am I. I in no way, shape, or form, walk around like I'm the best thing going. I know my imperfections. Maybe I know them a bit too well, so you can add that to the pile of imperfections I've got going for me. You want perfect? Buy a Barbie. She's got a perfect figure, and she won't complain. In fact, she won't even talk to you. Have fun with that.
As crappy as I feel some days, I have no desire to be 'perfect'. Because really, who decides what's perfect? I know some people who I definitely wouldn't want to decide what's perfect and what isn't, and in no way am I trying to tell you my opinion of perfection. I'm expressing how I feel (which is the point of a blog, no?).
I should in no way have to explain myself when I tell you that my day was awful. Or when I'm feeling stressed out about something. Or when I'm just not feeling happy. Everybody feels, and everybody thinks their feelings are more severe than others. But that doesn't mean that one should have to explain every minor detail when they're having a conversation with someone.
What I am trying to say, is don't let your feelings get to your head. You may have traveled many exotic, exciting places. You may have suffered greatly in your life. There are other people in the world besides you (SHOCKER ALERT!) so be considerate. The world does not revolve around a single person or a group of people. Think before you speak or act, you never know how you will affect people.
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